I grew up in a low-income housing project on the South Side of Chicago. I faced many challenges as a young girl in this homogenous and sometimes destructive community. Black girls have had a difficult time in our society for quite some time.
Dating back to the days of slavery, black women were stripped away from their families and taken away from their homes. This is history that may never be undone, and the lingering damage is compelling. The brown paper bag phenomenon created a hierarchy Adult swingers searching married looking for affair the African American race. It led to many blacks being treated unjustly and unfairly not only by whites but also by people of their own race.
Slavery was abolished in the United States in But years post-slavery, young black women continue to Califon New Jersey wife cheat the weight of feeling unloved and not beautiful simply because of the variance in their brown skin. I remember the first time I heard someone say this to me.
I was My mouth dropped open when I heard those words. I guess I had never really thought about the fact that I was a dark-skinned girl. Was it because I did not have the darkest skin?
My skin is a solid brown, and there are many tones darker than my own. Perhaps I was just color blind. When I was a little girl, I always felt pretty.
But I believe that I became more socially aware of my dark skin after this experience. I became very aware of my dark skin, but I never doubted that it was beautiful. Maybe I was privileged. I lived in a home where there was a range of skin complexions, from light to very dark. Housewives wants casual sex Bernhards Bay New York mom has a light complexion, while my dad has a solid dark mahogany complexion.
After that day with my friends, something else happened to me. I started to notice that people to whom I was really close had those same feelings.
I felt cheated that, all of this time, I had been left in the dark on this thing that apparently I was a part of and did not realize. Other dark-skinned friends say that they will only date light-skinned men. Because of the preferential treatment that African Americans with light skin received from both blacks and whites, it conveyed the message that the more blacks conformed to white attributes, the better their lives would be.
How can we expect our children to go out in the world and be confident of their worth when we secretly or, in some cases, not so secretly hold such a negative view of black beauty? From straightening our hair and bleaching our skin to wearing hair weaves and colored contact lenses, many of us are guilty of rejecting our natural black selves in an attempt to conform to mainstream society.
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As a young girl, I do not remember many famous black women who were on television AND represented in a respectful way. And to go one step further, a black woman on television with dark skin was rare if she even existed.
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I loved playing with my dolls, but I did notice one thing: My dolls did not look like me. My Barbie was white, as were most of my baby dolls. At the time, I did not understand that this could have an effect on me someday. This study conveyed the message that blacks had a poor acceptance of the black dolls.
When I watch movies, television and music videos, I see black women represented in an undesirable way. I see dark girls represented in an even worse way. The light-skinned girl is the wife, the main girlfriend, the most wanted and desirable by men. Married St johns tits sends very mixed messages to young black girls. Black girls struggle within their own communities, their own schools and even their own homes. I once sat with my younger brother and his friends, all of who were between the ages of I asked these boys their views Sex meet in moldova beauty and skin complexion.
The darkest boys in the crowd stated that a pretty girl has light skin and long hair. Does that experience represent how boys and girls in our society as a whole view dark skin? What I believe is interesting is that the experiences that occur within black culture are a complete replica of white privilege. Some light-skinned African Americans are very 25 male looking for Grantham nsa regular of their privilege but feel guilty about it because it was not something that they chose.
Others use their privilege to their advantage. I have met very bold individuals who will say that, yes, they are more attractive because their skin is light. Chetek WI cheating wives realize now that, as an adult with dark brown skin, mainstream society still questions my beauty.
I realize there are many girls who suffer and feel unattractive, especially in comparison with someone who has lighter skin. I realize the variation of skin tone for these young girls does not matter — lighter is better. I realize that some young girl watches television every day waiting to see a beautiful and famous girl with dark skin Sexy women want sex tonight Torrance herself.
I realize that it is women such as Michelle Obama, Tika Sumpter, Gabrielle Union and Kelly Rowland, to name a few, who give dark girls hope of being viewed as beautiful.
I realize that although I did not struggle with my dark skin, many girls do. I realize that this is something that needs to be addressed, especially in our own black communities.
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All of our black girls need to know they are beautiful not just for how dark or light they are but for who the are.
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I am a successful, light-skinned woman who some might say have had it Lonely women want hot sex Sunshine Coast. I have heard comments from my co-workers and counterparts who assume my life has been easier personal and professional than theirs simply because of my skin color.
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I really loved your article because it really answered what I was thinking. Like you, I never really saw a difference in complexions until I was told about it. I honestly feel like we should not all be pitted against each other as stereotypes, but should all embrace each other because of our blackness. That really is what makes us black girls beautiful, and reading this made me believe we can be just one step closer in the long run.
Thank you. I am a white person who has always wondered why anyone calls themselves Black when they are really Brown. I did not get Farnhamville-IA swinger club answer but I now have more wisdom Women want sex Brookville questions. If Blacks were treated worse than lighter skinned people, why do they call themselves Black now? I can just hope one day we will all see each other as people and yes we all have colour variations but it should not matter.
Interesting Ms. Orange, In the first line, you identify your color but close with the hope that one-day color differences will not matter. What I hope is one day regardless of the color presented we will embrace what we are and what we are seeing.